How to make a habit

  1. Decide that you want to make something a habit.
  2. Decide if you’re going to do it every day, or every week, or every month, or some other arrangement. (This all depends on the thing. If it’s “wake up at 5 a.m. every day,” the schedule is rather obvious. If it’s “run a mile naked under the full moon,” you’re pretty well locked in to every 28 days, max.)
  3. Do the thing as often as you decided you’re going to do it, whether you feel like doing it or not.
  4. When you really don’t feel like doing it, keep doing it anyway.
  5. When you no longer think about whether you want to do it or not, but just do it, your habit is fully cooked.
  6. Now keep doing it.

The above rules apply, without exception, to every possible habit. The use of the word “possible” is not accidental. You cannot make a habit of something you’re not able to do. You cannot make a habit of having breakfast on the moon. You cannot make a habit of swimming a mile every day if you can’t currently swim the length of a pool.

If you want to make a habit of doing something you currently can’t do, your first task is to find something you can do that takes you a step closer to the thing you can’t. Breakfast on the moon? Find out what you have to do to qualify to become an astronaut. (And lobby Elon Musk to launch a moon mission.) Swim a mile? Make a habit of swimming as many pool lengths as you can every day until you get to a mile’s worth. And so on.

I’m making a habit of writing something here every day. I didn’t yesterday, as a result of breaking rule #3 above, although in fairness I hadn’t written the list at the time, so didn’t have it handy to reference. I’ll do better from now on, I promise. (See rule #4.)